re·form: (r-fôrm) v. re·formed, re·form·ing, re·forms v. tr. 1. To improve by alteration, correction of error, or removal of defects; put into a better form or condition. 2. To cause (a person) to give up harmful or immoral practices; persuade to adopt a better way of life.
ma·ma or mam·ma also mom·ma: n. (also m-mä) Informal. Mother.


So Much For Keeping My Promise, Huh?

Sorry friends. Really I am.

I've been so busy trying to make sure that I get some exercise in and tending to Eddie and all that I just have not been on the computer much. Besides, the weather has been absolutely wonderful (for the most part) lately, so sitting at a desk instead of spending time outside just seems wrong to me.

Things are going well. My blood pressure has calmed down a bit. I am still dealing with morning sickness though. Only, it's sooooo much worse in the evenings. I really can't wait for the sickness part of this pregnancy to be gone.

Truth be told, I can't wait until the end of this pregnancy. I know, I know, I should be thankful. And I really am. I am so blessed. Eddie is absolutely wonderful and I know that just being able to get pregnant is a miracle for so many women. I just don't "do" pregnancy well.

I hate feeling bloated all the time. I hate my face looking like the Domino's Pizza Special of the Week. I hate gagging everytime I brush my teeth or change Eddie's diaper. And I hate wondering if this pregnancy will have the same problems as my last pregnancy.

Overall, I feel optimistic about carrying this child to full term. That's the truth. I'd be lying though if I said that there wasn't some nagging in the back of my mind that makes me worry about having to ride the NICU roller coaster again.

If you've not ever had to deal with pre-term labor and the complications that causes, then I don't know that you would understand. I don't mean that as a slam. Not at all. It's just that doing the NICU thing scars you. You lose the innocence that so many women have regarding pregnancy.

I had that innocence with Eddie. I remember thinking, "Okay, We are having an October baby and all will be well and that's that." I thought like that until about 20 weeks or so. That time from the time I took that pregnancy test to about 20 weeks was my babymoon.

After 20 weeks, I don't know what it was, but in my heart I knew that I'd deliver early. Perhaps
it was all the contractions. Even though they were Braxton-Hicks contractions, they did change my cervix.

When I hit 24 weeks I thanked God that My child was viable. When I hit 29 weeks and two days I delivered. I didn't get that babymoon that most moms get. I didn't get to hold my son until he was NINE DAYS OLD! Our first picture together is not of me snuggling with him. It's of me and Ed standing in front of a warming bed with our son hooked up to wires and a ventilator.

So now, I hope that I get that real babymoon with this child. I hope that I get to snuggle him or her right after she's born. I hope she/he gets to room in with me at the hospital and that I get to breastfeed from the beginning without having to use that stupid pump. I hope that my first picture with this child includes me really smiling - not just forcing a smile for the camera.

I hope for these things, but I am no longer so naive as to expect them. My innocence was lost on August 5, 2005.

Faith is the substance of things HOPED for, right? My faith gives me hope. My experiences fight to conquer that hope each day. I will not give in though. I will keep the faith.

I guess that kinda is why I haven't been blogging much. I've been busy gestating and trying to do everything within my power to make sure that I stay pregnant for as long as is possible.

I'll try to blog something happy and cheery tomorrow. I've got lots of that too.


Blogger Lindsey @ Enjoythejourney said...

Glat to get an update on you all. Just keep focusing on a healthy baby, healthy pregnancy. It is out of your control and I am praying God will give you peace time and time again when you need it most.

BTW--I never had a big babymoon either with any of my three. I just don't do infancy well. I love children when they're toddlers and preschoolers and up, but not so much as wiggly, crying infants. I never really had that over-the-moon type of feelings. And when #3 came along, I was too busy to even realize I had a newborn! I just threw him in the sling or babycarrier and drug him along on my hip each day. It goes by SOOOOO fast.

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